Find it in Meaning in English
expression
Definition
To be able to make yourself do something, usually something difficult, emotional, or that you do not want to do.
Usage & Nuances
Used mainly in negative situations: "can't find it in myself/himself/her". Often followed by 'to' and a verb (e.g., 'find it in myself to forgive'). More emotional than simply saying 'decide' or 'want'. Not literal; means emotional willingness or strength.
Example Sentences
I can't find it in myself to forgive him.
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She couldn't find it in herself to tell the truth.
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Do you think you'll find it in you to try again?
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He just couldn't find it in himself to quit his job, even though he was unhappy.
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Sometimes, I can't find it in me to be patient when I'm tired.
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After all that happened, I couldn't find it in my heart to stay angry.
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