Hold over your head Meaning in English
expression
Definition
To use something, such as a mistake or secret, to threaten or control someone, reminding them of it to get what you want.
Usage & Nuances
Usually informal, used for emotional or psychological threats, not physical. Common with 'they keep holding it over my head'. Often negative; implies manipulation or unfairness. Not about literal objects.
Example Sentences
He always holds that mistake over my head when we argue.
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She promised not to hold it over my head, but she did.
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Don't let anyone hold your secrets over your head.
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My boss keeps holding my past mistakes over my head whenever I ask for more responsibility.
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Stop holding it over my head—I’ve apologized so many times already!
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They think they can hold that favor over your head forever, but you don’t owe them anything.
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